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LOVE’S CARE COUSIN
This is my very first blog post, and I’m excited! This blog was born out of boredom, and a current inability to express my thoughts to others effectively. Please be advised, I have an opinion about EVERYTHING, and despite constant trips to church, I still judge! And hard. Don’t be offended, or do, but if I don’t express myself I fear that I will shave off my eyebrows and draw them back on with a CD marker.
Now that we’re past the introductions…I want to talk about Love’s Care Cousin. We shall use the abbreviation of LCC for further reference.
Love’s Care Cousin is that emotion between love and lust. It’s so close to love and lust that threesome’s have been explored. You can be in love, and lust. You can lust, and love. You know you’re experiencing Love’s Care Cousin when you’re love equations don’t make sense:
He/She dates other people + He/She never calls you first = I still have a shot
He/She only calls after hours + He/She doesn’t spend significant time with you = Work keeps them busy
He/She shuts down during times of strife + He/She doesn’t communicate for days afterwards = That’s just their way
He/She cheats or does cheatISH things + He/She asks for space = We can get over anything
Nope! We’ve all done it. Most of us are still doing it. Hope is what keeps us alive, right? But why do we take it so far? Is it because we don’t want to be rejected? Are we avoiding the inevitable?
LCC arrives when you’re in love, and you realize that you are not being loved back. Or, when you’re in lust, and you realize that the other person has changed their expectations.
We’re not robots, and we cannot turn our feelings on or off quickly, but we can change the outcome of our equations by accepting our realities. LCC is a necessary part of our love development. You can’t always recognize how significant and wonderful a particular relationship is if you’ve never experienced the ins and outs of love.
Just remember, though, you can ease out of LCC mode by using new math. When your love equations make perfect sense, you’ll know you’re doing it right!
Photo Courtesy of: Tim Furlow